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Selflove and why we’re all effed up about it...

February 1, 2018

Zelfliefde, houden van jezelf, aardig zijn voor jezelf.... Het is een groot onderwerp in mijn coachingspraktijk. We hebben er allemaal ANDERE associaties & gedachtes bij, die niet altijd in ons eigen voordeel werken.


Ik wil graag een artikel van Danielle LaPorte met jullie delen over Self Love, ter inspiratie. Ik hou van haar (sterke) taalgebruik en de manier waarop ze het in (haar) perspectief zet.


Anyway, hier is het artikel, ben benieuwd wat je ervan vindt :) 

And remember: go easy on yourself :)





Self Love and why we're all offed up about it - Danielle LaPorte


We can shout it: I Love my curves! I Love my crazy! I Love my attitude! All the while, we’re looking out of the corner of our eye to see if everyone else is Loving us for our curves, crazy, and ‘tude.


If *I* love me, then maybe YOU will Love me…right?


Not necessarily. Because humans are really fucked up about Love. BEAUTIFULLY, irresistibly, and understandably so messed up about it.


You can try to Love yourself in spite of not being loved the way you want (note: “spite”. Not a great phrase, already off to a bad start), “You don’t dig me? Well, I’ll show you how awesome I am!” That’s somewhat effective. Just somewhat, because you’re still going to have to get past the layers of self disdain to get to the warm center of true adoration. The Self Love Tootsie Roll. It’s in there.


Eventually you must Love yourself just because of…yourself.


…your beautiful, luminous, powerful, magnificent, righteous, sacred…self.


You can work on loving yourself because hating yourself is utter and total hell. That’s a really good motivation, actually. Get yourself out of hell with tenderness and acknowledgement, and when you get on firm ground, throw yourself a good life party — for the rest of your life.


Sometimes, we “act” like we love ourselves so that we don’t have to change. I Love myself completely and no changes are required.... Except our spirit very much wants to change what’s not working for our lives. But we’re afraid (often misdiagnosed as lazy or arrogant) to do what it takes to change. Fake self Love can turn into a cop out for really growing.


This is my favourite Self Love mind fuck: We think that if we Love ourselves the way we are now then we’ll become better, more…loveable. This is particularly screwy because you’re going to do something tomorrow that is insecure or less than awesome (often mislabelled as selfish or stupid) and you’ll be thinking, If only I were better at loving myself, I wouldn’t be such a fuck up.


Here’s my practical suggestion on Self Love: We’re all (mostly) a bit twisted up about Love. Loving ourselves, loving each other. Illusions, attachments, de-tachments. Past lives. Soul contracts (which are burnable, by the way). It’s incredibly complicated. Just know that and proceed.


Here’s my REALLY practical suggestion that seems really impractical to the practical mind: YOU ARE LOVE. Your Soul, cells, spirit…it’s the stuff of Love (or “LIGHT”. Same thing.) Original, essence, your core. You’re Love today, you were Love yesterday, and you’ll be Love…forever.


So go easy on yourself. Really and truly, so eeeasy. Celebrate yourself no matter what — even if they think you’re tacky, terrible, too much of this, too little of that. Make how you move through the world an homage to your beautiful, luminous, powerful, magnificent, righteous, sacred…self.


That same self who may fuck up tomorrow, but will still be made of LOVE. THAT Self. Love.  


Ever True,




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